The 21st century relationships, Baby Mama Vs. Baby Daddy Saga!

By Repher Anekeya Nyangweso, University of Kabianga.

Photo Courtesy; KPD

Relationships always look promising at the beginning, the love, the romance, the attention are all showered between the couples, but why should a relationship be terminated when kids arrive too early than expected?

Every new day, there are always dramas and chaos between the baby daddy and the baby mama, Some end up in court, some end up killing each other, some even end up gaining more of what they deserve because of their selfish reasons. How can a loving relationship turn out to be very sour and bitter? Why do the innocent kids have to suffer because of their parent’s conflict?

There is always trouble in paradise once a baby comes in the picture, well there are those lucky relationships where both partners accept their responsibilities and chose to continue with their journey together, but the big question is why do most relationships fail?. Is it the mothers fault or is it the fathers fault.

At the age of 20-25 most girls are always at their enjoyment stage, not yet ready to settle, relationships are always termed as trial and error by most of the ladies, it is because of this reasoning whereby you get some girls opt for an abortion so that they can continue “enjoying life”, this can be one of the main reason as to why we do have conflicts among the baby mama and daddy, The man responsible for the pregnancy might want to keep the pregnancy and raise his child but the mother has come up with another decision that would risk her life, Another cause for chaos between parents, we see that there is no loyalty in our relationships today, An unfaithful girl will just pick any man of her interest and blame him to be the man behind her pregnancy, this will later on be a trouble when the truth is finally out . These are just but some examples as to why we do have problems in the “Baby mama and Baby daddy world”, but are the girl/ the mother only responsible for this chaos?

Men also pay a role in these troubled relationships. For instance you might find a married man, been so lustful over the young girls, and when he finally impregnate a lady, they take no responsibility of their mess and continues with his family, leaving the girl with no option but take the matter to court for child support, we also see men/ young boys who impregnate their girlfriends abandon them and leave them with 99% of the child responsibilities and start a new relationship with other girls who they now find sweet to their eyes, but who is to blame? Is it the mother or the father?

Conflicts might arise between the both parties but despite every conflict and pain between them, the child is the most affected party. A child in these case might grow up in dilemma on which parent to love the most or which parent to avoid, In this case a child’s mind will be affected the most, which it is not advisable. Kids should grow up with the both parents love and affection. Kids deserve their true parents love, it is very painful to see a child growing with hatred inside him/her because of one of the parent’s fault. Parents should also work together to ensure that their kids gets the best despite of the worst and these can also be achieved when there is a good relationship between the parents.

Repher Anekeya Nyangweso

University of Kabianga

rephanyangweso@gmail.com